Five things you don’t need to worry about when planning a funeral.
Many people speak of the number of things that happens with a funeral. During a time when people are often stressed, highly emotional and possibly with their mind all over the place… they have to make some significant decisions.
Not only in regard to spending money, which we know isn’t cheap. Also, decisions that can be complicated with family relationships, expectations and any number of other issues. It’s little wonder many people are in a bit of a daze and then a few weeks later can’t recall too much of what actually happened.
Here is a list of 5 things you really don’t need to worry about… if you don’t want to. You can worry about them if you want to.
- You don’t need to worry about spending more money than you need. If money is a concern, don’t fall into the trap of over-spending. Spending more doesn’t mean better. Remembering, celebrating and mourning a person’s life has very little to do with money.
- You don’t need to worry about the expectations of others. Have a funeral that is meaningful to you, your family and friends. Not what other people like funeral directors or well-intentioned friends tell you what you should do. The truth is that there is no right or wrong way. People grieve differently and the way you want to have a funeral is the right way.
- You don’t need to worry about doing everything a funeral home offers you. Funeral directors will happily provide as many things as possible. Sometimes it feels easier just to let them do whatever so you don’t need to think about it. However not everything they suggest will be what you need or want.
- You don’t need to worry about rushing things. Yes, there are many things going on – funeral, contacting family, lawyers, etc. Things will happen so just take one step at a time. Don’t rush decisions. Take a breath, try and relax and be happy with the decisions you have made.
- You don’t need to worry about if you can cope. This can be the hardest thing in the world for you to deal with. The last thing you ever wanted to do. Feeling this way is okay. Tears are okay. Raw emotions are a natural reaction that should be expected. Know that the intensity will ease, and you will cope.
Funerals can be complicated ordeals. Sometimes the paperwork feels endless (not with SDF though). The death of a loved one is a significant event in your life and you want to do the right thing. There are many demands placed on you and being able to take control of things a bit more will be helpful.