15 things Funeral Homes
don’t want you to know
1. Don’t pay in advance for a funeral. Yes, you can pre-plan. But keep the money in a separate bank account. This way you are in complete control of it. You won’t be charged fees – especially if you decide to go elsewhere.
2. Often funeral homes advertise low prices to get customers in the door. Then they subtly add services or options that end up costing far more than you intended.
3. You don’t need to be embalmed. Especially if you are having a cremation or burial within a few days.
4. Be wary of these types of hard-sell phrases funeral directors use… “Given your position in the community …,” “I’m sure you want what’s best for your mother,” “Doing this or that will really honour your dad,” “You would agree that your mum deserves the best.”
5. Be wary of “professional fees”. They can range from hundreds to thousands of dollars. It means nothing and is just another way of them upping their price.
6. If you are scattering the ashes you definitely don’t need a special scattering urn. Use the urn you get from the crematorium.
7. You don’t need to have a funeral service if you don’t want one.
8. You can have your own get together to remember and celebrate the person’s life at a place and time that suits you. This could be a pot-luck dinner or bbq or picnic at the beach, etc. Often this is done a few weeks later after things have settled down a little.
9. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to have a very meaningful funeral. The more you spend does not represent how much you loved the person.
10. In the end coffins are either burnt or buried so paying for more expensive ones is simply a way for them to make more money.
11. You can shop around and see what each funeral home offers. Be clear with the prices you get from them and if need be get it in writing.
12. Even if you start with one funeral home
initially, there is nothing stopping you from changing your mind if you feel uncomfortable or the costs keep rising. Be happy with the team there.
13. Just because a funeral director says, “This is the way a funeral is usually done,” doesn’t mean you have to do the same thing. Do what is right for you.
14. Organising a funeral can be stressful and confusing, which can leave people vulnerable to up-selling of products or services. So when you go be sure on what you want and watch out for the sales pitch.
15. Ultimately remember what is truly important. It isn’t the flash coffin or flowers or hearse or how big the gravestone is (if you get one). What is most important is that the event of a loved one dying is meaningful and right for you and your family.